Purple Butterfly

Love & Relationships

Friday, October 10, 2008

I was wandering around my old emails when I found this:

Love & Relationships

About LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS
The ten types of relationship that won't work:

1. You care about your partner more than he does
about you.
2. Your partner cares more about you than you do
about him.
3. You are in love with your partner's potential.
4. You are on a rescue mission.
5. You look up to your partner as a role model.
6. You are infatuated with your partner for external
reasons.
7. You have partial compatibility.
8. You choose a partner in order to be rebellious.
9. You choose a partner as a reaction to your
previous partner.
10. Your partner is unavailable.

The six BIGGEST mistakes we make in the
beginning of a relationship:

1. We don't ask enough questions.
2. We ignore warning signs of potential problems.
3. We make premature compromises.
4. We give in to Lust Blindness.
5. We give in to material seduction.
6. We put Commitment Before Compatibility.

Seven Wrong Reasons to be in a Relationship:

1. Pressure (age, family, friends, etc.)
2. Loneliness and desperation
3. Sexual hunger
4. Distraction from your own life
5. To avoid growing up
6. Guilt
7. To fill up your emotional or spiritual emptiness.

The Lust into Love Formula

1. First, you feel powerful sexual chemistry with
someone or, in raw
terms,lust.
2. Next, you act on those urges and have sex with
that person.
3. Then you experience some guilt or discomfort
having been so sexually
intimate with someone you aren't that
emotionally connected with.
4. Finally you create a relationship with that person
to legitimize
your lust.

Five Realities about Love

1. Love is not enough to make a relationship work -
it needs
compatibility and it needs commitment.
2. It just takes a moment to experience infatuation,
but true love
takes time.
3. It is possible to experience true love with more
than one
person -there are many potential partners you
could be happy with.
4. The right partner will fulfill many of your needs
but not all of
them.
5. Good sex has nothing to do with true love, but
making love does.

Five Deadly Myths about Love

1. True love conquers all.
2. When it's really true love, you will know it the
moment you meet the
other person.
3. There is only one true love in the world who is
right for you.
4. The perfect partner will fulfill you completely in
every way.
5. When you experience powerful sexual chemistry
with someone, it must
be love.

Fatal flaws to watch out for in a partner:

1. Addictions.
2. Anger.
3. Victim consciousness.
4. Control freak
5. Sexual Dysfunction.
6. Hasn't grown up.
7. Emotionally unavailable.
8. Hasn't recovered from past relationships.
9. Emotional damage from childhood.

Here are seven compatibility time bombs that can
destroy a
relationship:

1. Significant age difference.
2. Different religious background.
3. Different social, ethnic, or educational
background.
4. Toxic in-laws.
5. Toxic ex-spouse.
6. Toxic Stepchildren.
7. Long-distance relationships.

Six qualities to look for in a mate:

1. Commitment to personal growth.
2. Emotional openness
3. Integrity
4. Maturity and responsibility
5. High self-esteem.
6. Positive Attitude towards life

"TRUE LOVE cannot be found where it does not
truly exist, nor cannot be
hidden where it truly does."

"God has given each of you some special
abilities; be sure to use them
to help each other, passing to others God's many
kinds of blessings." -1 Peter 4:10

Butterfly Tales
12:21 PM

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