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Wednesday, December 28, 2005

I said it so myself, countless of times and I've given the same advice to those whose hearts are emotionally disturbed. I tell myself, emotions can be very misleading and not to allow emotions to cloud my judgment. I am giving myself the exact same advice. My friend RYAN introduce me to www.christianster.com. He was telling me then that it was like friendster where you can connect with other people, friends and fellow Christians so I decided to give it a try. It is similar to Friendster but so unlike it as well. It has an option where you can post an advice and prayer and prayer request. I had a problem before and since some people seemed confident enough to post their problems I decide to post as anonymous. The response I got was comforting and I felt love and concern even by people whom I haven't met. So, again I am facing a dilemma I decided to post my problem. I wasn't exactly expecting an honest response.

So, this is what I posted on that website and I got 5 responses

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I don't know what to say or where to begin. I tried not to be emotionally involved with a friend I just met recently. but it seems that my efforts are futile cause I find myself drawn to him and just an overwhelming sense of caring for him deeply. I am blessed that he is Christian but I want to guard my heart and know God's will for me. I want to be honest with him and tell him I am beginning to feel more than just friendship. I am not sure whether what I feel is right or just another scheme of satan to distract me. One thing I can truly say is that it's wonderful to love freely and without hesitation. I don't know what to do. Should I just try to supress these feelings or at least share it with him?

5.00 1 votes	posted by chelle214 on Dec 28 2:20 AM
	First of all sis, love is not an accident...it cannot be an accident that you are loving a person:) better make sure that it is really love. Start with the real definition of love. I encourage you not to reveal it now, sister. Keeping it secret and making sure about it will really be helpful. Continue praying and guarding your heart. Pray for wisdom. The more that you are disturbed and bothered, the more that it is far from true love. I understand that it is not easy to feel like you're feeling right now...but time will come that you will really know the truth. Do not be deceived with your heart. True love will endure forever but feelings will fade. Wait more patiently and pray faithfully. Enjoy loving the Lord and having Him as your FIRST LOVE:) Take care sister! God bless!

5.00 3 votes	posted by tranzgel321 on Dec 28 12:18 AM
	Hi Sis. It's a good thing to expect. However, I have learned that a great expectation must be balanced with a total surrender. As we fully yield our life to Him,we know that everything will fall into its right place. If that person is really the one God has chosen for you, he will be yours at God's perfect time. But if he is not the "perfect will" for you, just let him go because he might be a "perfect will" for another girl. Don't let your feelings for him drown you. As I read from a book authored by Paulo Coelho (By the River Piedra), he said "we suffer becuae we feel we are giving more than we receive. We suffer because our love is going unrecognized. We suffer because we are unable to impose our ow rules". Again, true love is an act of total surrender.

0.00 0 votes	posted by dst1 on Dec 27 9:52 PM
	i agree a lot on what ray_leal have said.. motive makes the difference. sis, just always remember on what Jeremiah 17:9 says "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?" -Jeremiah 17:9 KJV well sis, just wait. establish a firm foundation on God. be careful on every move or decisions you make. it may lead to lifetime disappointment! GodSpeed

3.00 1 votes	posted by khitz on Dec 27 7:59 PM
	hi sis! you know what we are having a same problem, :D just last night i cry hard to God about my love problem.. i guess i better share to you my sort of ways about dealing that kind of issue (but still leaning on God's way)Just like you, i am also confused about wether i will let the feeling stay or supress it fearing that it might be one of Satan's tactics! I offer this problem to God, letting Him to control the situation. My friend says.. God is worth the wait.. though His action seems delaying it will never be late, ask God for clear revelation of His will! I believe, IF its God's will (for both of you) you don't have to make any necessary action, He will work for it! how much you resist... Sometimes feelings comes from God, the choice is ours to learn to trust Him/wait for His proper time or deal with our own ways of rushing things! Certainly if the man like you, he will tell you! and that is what i am holding right now, (though its really hard to keep the feelings)i believe God will not let us suffer esp. in this kind of matter! coz He care for us, how cheap or funny might be is.. What i pray last night is, i ask God if this feeling is His will, i thank Him and i said i will trust Him until His perfect time came for us to be together and if this is not His will i said help me to get rid of this feeling, cast this out from my heart coz it do distruct me! I believe, everything that is happening to us is a plan of God.. for pain or for gain there's a great reason... God bless! :D

0.00 0 votes	posted by ray_leal on Dec 27 6:19 PM
	nadinemae, motive makes the difference. be sure your intentions or motives are pure and can bless the other person not only you. be sure you are making the other person feel comfortable when he is with you rather than being insecure because he knows how you feel about him. get to know each other better. set self interests aside. build a firm and stable ground of friendship that is Christ centered. guard your heart. ray

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